It’s a home school day. What lies ahead? Will it be calm? Or full of drama? My daughter drops her pencil on the floor and by her response you would think the world was caving in. Drama……Really? It’s just a dropped pencil for heaven’s sake!
A few minutes later after recovering from the dropped pencil, she makes a mistake on her math paper. It’s only one out of twenty-five, yet by her response you’d think she had missed all of them. More drama….. Really? It’s only ONE problem! Why can’t she focus on the twenty-four problems she mastered?
Just when I think this girl of mine has exerted all the drama she could possibly muster in such a short time, we have yet another incident. She uses the wrong shade of blue to label a city on her map for geography class. She had meant to use light blue but discovers she’s used a dark blue. By her response you’d think she had used black scribbles all over it! More drama…..again.
With all these dramatic incidents, I plead with her to not get so upset over the little things.
“Focus on the big picture, sweetheart. You’re doing a great job, but you are absolutely exhausting yourself emotionally when you get upset like this. Save your energy for the big stuff–the things that really matter.”
I shake my head and shoot up an arrow prayer before going about my day. “God, please help this child to stay calm with the trivial things! Why is she acting like this? She is wearing me out!”
Just a few hours later I am working on balancing our bank account. In the busyness of this season, receipts and bank statements have piled up and I am way behind schedule. I optimistically think that I can knock this out quickly. (First mistake…..I set up an expectation.)
I am plugging along at a good pace and then all of a sudden the computer locks up. It freezes. I can’t continue with this task. I yell at the computer screen as if it is a person and can actually hear me.
Come on! What is wrong with you!?
When it doesn’t respond the way I want it to, my frustration grows and I slam my fist on the desk. Wham!
In the still small voice that I know is God whispering to my weary soul, I hear Him say this: Really, Lisa? All this drama over a frozen computer screen? This is a little thing. Save your emotional energy for the big stuff.
A little later I head out the door to run an errand. When I retrieve my phone from the charger, I notice the charger is NOT working. My phone is still dead. Now I must go out of the house with no phone! My frustration level rises….again. By my response you would think the world was caving in.
The still small voice I heard a few hours prior is calling me….again. This time it seems a bit louder. Lisa, this is a little thing. You are too focused on this phone. The world will not fall apart without it. Save your emotional energy for the big stuff.
I finally let the reality of this profound truth sink in. Just as my daughter fell apart over trivial issues, I too squandered my energy on petty frustrations. Things that don’t really matter when viewed through the lens of eternity. From God’s perspective, these little things are really no big deal.
I need to be reminded of what the apostle Paul says about trivial things in 2 Corinthians 4:17: “For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all.”
A dropped pencil, a missed math problem and a map mistake? Light and momentary troubles!
A frozen computer screen and a broken phone charger? Light and momentary troubles!
So what is this eternal glory Paul talks about? Well, that would be the big stuff. The stuff that really matters.
Lingering a little longer in my daughter’s bedroom at night to listen to her and pray with her. Eternal glory!
Having coffee with a single mom who needs a listening ear. Eternal glory!
Planning a family night to just hang out and laugh together. Eternal glory!
Yes, these are the things that really matter. But if I exert too much energy on the little things, I’ll be depleted and won’t have anything to offer when it’s really needed.
What about you? What light and momentary troubles are you dealing with this week? If you’re like me, it’s easy to get focused on those things and lose heart. But I pray we will see these things for what they are–light and momentary–and save our energy for the things that really matter.
Blessings to you!
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Such a blessing each time I read these blogs. Thank you so much for taking the time to be real….Blessings, Love you.
Thanks Kim! Being real is the only way to go if we truly want to encourage one another on our faith journey. Love you too!
Thanks Jim!! You are laughing out loud because you get a front row seat to watching these things play out daily in our family. Love you!
Lisa, are you putting these posts into a book yet? They are awesome and I learn something every time I read them! God bless you!