A popular time for people to declare their love for one another.
A husband confirms his love for his wife with beautiful roses and a special dinner at a fancy restaurant.
A parent excitedly lavishes candy and gifts upon her children, hoping they will feel the love oozing out in between each bite of chocolate.
A young man chooses this day to propose to his girlfriend, their love so explosive for all to see.
Yes, these are ideal expressions of love we long to give. Or even better, the kind we long to receive.
But what if this is not reality in your world today? What if you can’t identify with any of these scenarios?
You can’t go there today because for you, love just feels HARD during this season of your life.
Your marriage may be crumbling and there aren’t any flowers or fancy dinner date on the horizon.
You’re in the midst of conflict with one of your kids and no amount of candy or gifts will make things right.
Or perhaps you’re single and there isn’t anyone in your life to declare their love to you. You are literally all alone. By yourself. Going through a divorce or a break-up with a significant other.
Yes, this is when love is hard. It doesn’t feel good. In fact in feels down right miserable.
But the kind of love I’m referring to in the above scenarios is human love. And because humans live in a fallen world with sin nature, their love will fail. It will disappoint. It will leave you feeling empty at times.
Even the best of marriages? Yes, their love will fail at times.
Even the best relationships between mother/daughter and father/son? Yes, their love will fail at times.
What about the love between two people who are soul mates…made for each other? Yes, their love will fail at some point, too.
Not trying to be discouraging on this Valentine’s Day, but this is a reality we have to come to grips with.
Human love will fail and disappoint. But the love of God is unfailing and always dependable.
When He declares His love for us, we’d better take notice and cling to it with all we have.
Psalm 13:5 says “But I trust in your unfailing love, my heart rejoices in your salvation.”
Psalm 6:4 says “Deliver me and save me because of your unfailing love.”
When love is hard with the people in your life, remember that His Love Never Fails.
He also tells us that NOTHING can separate us from His love.
Romans 8:35,39 says, “Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall trouble or hardship or persecution or famine or nakedness or danger or sword? For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.
So nothing or nobody can separate us from His love! I don’t know about you, but I just really need to soak this up and camp out here for a while.
It’s easy to get discouraged by our loved ones when they hurt us. Disappoint us. Let us down.
And if we aren’t careful, we can let the disappointment of human love override the declaration of Holy Love. A love that is unfailing. A love we can depend on. A love that will never be separated from anyone or anything.
So where are you on this Valentine’s Day, dear friend? Are you in a place where love is hard? Has someone you love disappointed you? Whether it’s your spouse, child or friend, you are not alone.
An amazing thing about God’s love is that when we embrace it and let it ooze out all over us, it gradually begins to trickle out to those around us. His love will come out through us if we stay still long enough for it to soak through our souls. And then we are able to love others like He loves us.
Even when love is hard.
Blessings to you!
3 thoughts on “When Love is Hard”
this is beautiful!!
Valentines’ Day has long since passed, but your words are so very timely for me! I’m not gonna go into the details, but just let me say that God clearly directed me to your blog today, and I am grateful.
Although you and I may never meet in person, thank you, Lisa, for your insightful and inspiring words. God bless you, my sister!
Thanks for stopping by today! So glad you were encouraged through this post. Blessings to you in the days ahead.